Have you ever been conflicted between listening to your head or your heart?
In this episode, Dr. Lexi Meleski shares how she was able to ignore her ego and listen to her heart in order to choose a medical profession that is meaningful and close to her heart.
What can you do if you’ve already started on a path that doesn’t feel right?
How can you switch directions and feel confident with a new decision?
Tune into this episode to hear why forming a positive, loving relationship with your body is the foundation of any spiritual growth and journey.
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NK: On this special episode, we have Lexi Meleski with us! I’m really honored to introduce her to all of you, and I can’t wait to share her story. She seeks to reach a greater community through her chiropractic and doula practice. Lexi works with working and single income families in the entire Dallas-Fort Worth Metroplex. The majority of people she serves have never seen a chiropractor before, so Dr. Lexi realized a need for this affordable service in holistic health care and has created the nonprofit Our Birthing Home Wellness Community recently in 2017. Welcome to the show, Lexi! It’s so wonderful to have you here with us.
LM: Thank you, Natasha! I really appreciate being here.
NK: Wow. Reading your bio makes me feel like there’s a greater purpose━it links to some desire of you to serve the community and to be more than a practicing doctor or someone in the medicinal field. Tell me a bit about how you found your way to niche down or focus on the people who you serve today? How did your path end up this way?
LM: I actually wanted to be an ob-gyn or an obstetrician. I’ve been delivering babies in hospitals since I was 10 years old, and life has changed over time. I started working for a chiropractor in high school and that started to change the mindset a little bit, but my ego was really strong. I received a full scholarship to undergraduate and in the last semester, I took a class in childbirth history. That’s when I realized I don’t want to be a trained surgeon and cut women open when they deliver babies truly on their own. It led me on the path with nursing prerequisites to become a midwife. Halfway through the Fall semester, I was thinking I went to school to be a doctor and I want to do that. Instead of applying to medical school, I ended up going to a chiropractic school secondarily. I was called down to Dallas, moved here within four days from Wisconsin, put everything I could in my car and just started school. Halfway through the chiropractic program, I learned about becoming a certified doula, and that’s when I realized this is the combination I can create, enter the birth world through, and serve working and single income families. I realized they’re the people who need help the most as far as quality of life improved because they’re the ones with the least amount of resources, and providing that care as a resource to allow them to live a better life, work longer and enjoy their life as well.
NK: Not just the communities which you chose to serve, but also the line of work that you do. I always find this as a very special place or moment to share with someone else, or to give that care. Within your story, what was the spark or when did you realize that this is special to you too? Where does that connection come from?
LM: I have no kids yet. It is so sacred and it has caught my attention since a very young age. I’m the oldest of four and my mom had natural births all in the hospital. She was the eleventh of twelve, and her mother delivered the first ten at home; my mom was actually the first birth in a hospital. They hated it, and I find it very fascinating because my mom is from Mexico, and a lot of the sacredness that comes with indigenous and culturally just a healing aspect of pregnancy and postpartum is lost in America. I don’t know if that was calling to me; it’s like deep down inside the Mexican roots were coming out or the true curiosity of childbirth and not really knowing much about it. When I was playing Barbies, they were always pregnant., and I always wanted to see the shows of pregnancy or TLC. It was just something about it that really grabbed my attention.
NK: It’s really funny how sometimes when you share your story at a very young age. As a child without even much comprehension of what that whole process is, you have those dolls. Then when you get older, the mind listens to what the head is saying and the ideas of what should be right. When you go back and forth and come in full circle, you always knew this is the path that many of us take. The beautiful thing is that here you are━you follow your intuition to go towards your roots and something very deep, sacred and close to your heart from the beginning. How did you navigate though? Sometimes we make big decisions in our lives and we feel we better stick to it even if that’s five or ten years down the road. Was it difficult to begin to listen to your heart even though it seems there were strong thinking or ideals of how things should be?
LM: That is a good question. A lot of masks and layers have been ripped off. I wanted to be in the society, to be the cool girl and to fit in. I never thought I was cool or pretty enough, and I think all of that built up. Through undergrad, I was that lost girl━partying, started drinking when I was fifteen, blackout every weekend and still performed excellently in school. Moving forward in undergrad, I think the beauty of chiropractic is it allows you to integrate your life experiences. Having had chiropractic care from age 16 when I started working━even though I didn’t understand it fully━it allowed my body, mind and soul to integrate so much more at a deeper and faster level. When I do something I want, I’m pretty impulsive so I finish what I need to do. I call it “Lexi time”; it may take a little longer than others expected to, but when I want something I go for it. When my mind changes, the adaptability that I have kicks in so hard. Being a birth worker has really helped me to become more adaptable as well, because if I’m serving people as a chiropractor, and all of a sudden one of my clients call and she needs support, I got to go. Back in undergrad, it hit me so hard in that one class which I think was the chiropractic care. I had a really big case of IBS or irritable bowel syndrome, and under that, I was very stressed out and probably in and out of the bathroom every 20 minutes for almost two years. I think that was also a huge life path change and shift because then I started looking at diet and all these different things. I thought I probably should not be here in the situations I’ve gotten myself into and the experiences I’ve had even abroad, but I felt that I’ve always been guided and protected as long as I am true to serving the community and what’s best for them. It’s taking the proper measures. We all have responsibilities of our life and I think that’s what I ended up doing: realizing I can change my life and I don’t have to go down this path of a profession which could potentially be even more detrimental to a birth culture.
NK: Sometimes all it takes is that one experience or realization. It’s like a little domino effect and it knocks down all the plans we’ve ever made. Thank you for sharing your story, and also the courage it must have taken to close that door and to open another. You’re so determined; you know you have to walk through it and then the actions followed. You’re here serving quite an important need in my opinion. The Feminine Space came about when I was reading “Wild Feminine” by Tami Lynn Kent who’s a pelvic care practitioner. Through this, I read more on birth and I realized that a lot of spiritual teachers were practices. If you talk about enlightenment or spiritual matters, you imagine someone in the mountains where they’re glowing, don’t have to eat, floating and healing everything, and it’s like supernatural. Sometimes in the spiritual or self-development field, we forget the body is a direct channel through what we call the ’divine’, ’oneness’ or ’love’, and what we’re really looking for. I love how in your story you talked about the chiropractic course or practice, opening the door back into your body and realizing there’s a source of wisdom that can come from a woman. It’s very deep, profound and wise. I wanted to mention that and play around this subject with you, because sometimes people just neglect the body especially on certain silent retreats.
LM: Exactly. It’s something that I go back and forth with all the time. Ultimately, I want to be in union with God, divine inflow with the universe and all of those wonderful things, but our body is the temple of which we are able to do so. If we are not taking care of or responsible for what we were given, how will the universe allow us to receive then? How are we going to be able to receive if we’re not even able to really take care of ourselves? Our body is capable of so much and especially in childbirth, we see its miraculousness, what it can do and how it is able to go through for 30 hours or so. We have to prepare for it and take care of it because it leads to a better quality of life. If you are not worried about your sprained ankle, you’re better and you’re able to eat the food that you need to become clearer in body and mind. What’s so beautiful about chiropractic is when we’re better able to meet people where they’re at, we can then bring them up with us. We meet people in the physical, not ethereal and sentient beings. In this profession, what we’re doing is we’re meeting somebody in a very physical level. When we’re able to bring somebody back with us through the journey to become a sentient or whatever we want to become, we need to do that for the care of our body. We cannot think that it is separate from our mind because even when we think of things out of mind, doesn’t mean out of body. Everything held within the body is usually emotional, and that’s what we’re working on to connecting spiritual and physical. It is one and the same. You cannot focus on one without the other, so we are connected in that. It is imperative to remember that our bodies are our temples. Even though it is just a meat suit on this earth, it is still our vehicle in which we can do things, become better and serve our community.
NK: I totally agree with you. A lot of people have meditation practices or certain exercises, but can we bring that same level of kindness and awareness when we are working out? How are we treating ourselves every day? Are we just trying to reach this spiritual thing that’s all the way up here? Are we really acknowledging that this is all of us and we have to take care of ourselves?
LM: That brings you back to the present because right now we are in our bodies. It allows us to come back a little bit, and realize like this is all I can do or be today. It’s important to remember too that our bodies are so capable when we give them the opportunity to be but until then, what are we doing to help them adapt better? That is what health is: our ability to adapt. If we can increase our ability to adapt, then we’re not getting the flu; if we do, we’re healing faster from it. That’s what I tell everybody. I’ve had hundreds of people lay on the table in the last few weeks with the flu, and I asked them every single time: Why am I not sick? What am I doing differently? That’s where you can start meeting somebody where they’re at and just ask them the questions to allow them to open up, realize and start listening to their bodies. What is it that your body is calling for?
NK: I can’t agree more, and listen to what it’s saying. Just like your heart is telling you to go this way or change that about your life, your body is revealing to you the same thing. Thanks for bringing that full circle back. It’s a simple advice, but very powerful. We’ve gone through so many topics in this interview, but I love it. It’s amazing from your practice how you’ve gone to create the work that you do today, how it came about, your struggle between the head and the heart━then finally choosing the latter and letting it guide you to where you are━and being the advocate of: The body is here for you; give what it needs so it can be here for you too. How can the audience get in contact with you or just deepen their relationship, and follow more that you have to share?
LM: I think the best way right now is our website that we finally redid and it launched back in September. The website is ourbirthinghome.com, and in there you can find the story of how we came about, the nonprofit and also what services we provide at home and down the street right now. Hopefully, we’ll add to that vision and create a birth center in the coming 2018. There’s also a contact page on there, so if they want to get in touch shoot directly to me.
NK: Awesome! Thank you so much, Lexi! I really encourage you to check out her website and take a look at what’s provided such as the choices you have as a woman. Maybe suggest to a friend what type of care can be given to us at a time when we’re very vulnerable. This is a great opportunity to open up our eyes to the healing that’s available at every stage of our life. Depending on the country you’re in━maybe what Lexi is providing isn’t given near you, but you can then ask maybe your local hospital or bring up in women’s groups, and see if you can create that in your own space. Thank you Lexi for coming on and for the work that you do! The women who are birthing these beautiful beings into the world are truly sacred. Thank you for being you and for being here!
LM: Thank you, Natasha! I appreciate it.
NK: Everybody, thanks for joining us! Make sure to get in touch with Lexi. Meanwhile, I’ll talk to you again next week! Bye everybody!
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